In my past, this topic came up again and again and I had no answer for a long time. To be completely honest, 3-4 years ago I wasn’t very convinced. At that time, I saw coaches as people who sell sometimes questionable services for enormous amount of money. I also have a suitable story that happened to me 2019 in Bali.
Bali is an island that almost magically attracts spiritual people. Therefore, it is relatively easy in Bali to meet someone over a coffee and philosophize directly about the history of the creation of the universe. That’s how I got to know Tanja and in our first conversation we had a wonderful exchange about personality development. At that time I had dealt more intensively with the topic of coaching. During our second conversation, she mentioned that she has a session with her coach today. I was visibly irritated because at the time I was of the opinion that only people with real problems needed coaching. She didn’t give me the impression at all that she needed coaching. Then Tanja gave me a little lecture about my conviction. You could say my eyes were opened a little here.
After this experience, I dealt with the topic more intensively and reflected on it again and again over the next few years. It became clear to me that there are of course coaches who are only interested in their clients’ money. There are also coaches who are not primarily concerned with money, but with the well-being of their clients.
My own coaching
After returning to Germany from my trip in December 2019, I started my second yoga teacher training in February 2020. This training lasted for a year and we had a one-to-one lesson every week, which usually lasted 3 hours. My teacher’s main focus was to train me as a yogi. As in a coaching session, we discussed personal issues and transformed my beliefs. During this training, I began to recognize the value of coaching. I always looked forward to our time together because I was able to learn an incredible amount from him. After a while our connection broke and we started fighting a bit. Like two little kids saying you’re so stupid. So our ways parted at the beginning of 2021. Over a year later, I can now say that I am very grateful for this experience. Every coach is entitled. Even those who initially only think about the client’s money. It is our own responsibility and task< strong> semblance of being< /strong> to distinguish. Perhaps we even need such a certificate in order to fulfill an important learning task.
My current coaches
At the moment I even have two coaches at the same time. According to the motto, twice is better. My two coaches come from different areas and are a real enrichment for me. On the one hand, I have monthly coaching with my Human Design Coach, who helps me to internalize the Human Design System and to answer specific questions I have. With my open mind and profile 1/3 I can tell you that there are many questions. My other coach is a spirit healer who supports me on a spiritual basis and also helps me to cleanse myself. With her I explore more and more the spiritual world and begin to understand differently what it means to be human. For me, both are incredibly great spiritual teachers who help me to develop my own potential. I am very grateful to have two such incredible coaches in my life.
My conclusion & experience
Coaching can be extremely helpful or totally destructive. It is important to find the right coach for you. Rely on your perception for this. Do you feel comfortable around him? Is he authentic and lives what he teaches? Do you feel like he’s doing it for the money? Even if you had a coach who cheated you. Try to identify why you let yourself be done and what did you learn from the experience? Dividing coaches into good or bad is more than questionable because we are all part of something bigger. Everyone has their job to do. Sometimes we also need so-called ass angels in life. For me, I can only advocate coaching because we are all masters at cheating ourselves. Another person is not in our bubble and can therefore look at our issues from the outside. In doing so, we can get a new perspective inside the bubble, which can help us in our development. A very important aspect for me is the understanding that a coach is not a panacea. The time of the gurus is over and each individual is required to take personal responsibility.